I'd like to add that capability also does not equal capacity. I have pushed myself in so many ways all I my life because I am technically capable of doing things... I do not, however, have the capacity to do all of the things that I an capable of combined...I never have. People, myself included, see me as capable, and I am but my capacity has always been extremely low.
I love that you also are viewing things through the lens of capacity. The lens of capacity is something that I use a lot to explain dynamic Disability and families as an ecosystem.
Thank you for writing this with such clarity and care. The way you've separated capacity from character is both freeing and validating, especially for those of us who have spent a lifetime equating performance with worth. Your description of "psychic plaque" building up over years of overriding signals makes so much sense, it’s a relief to see this complexity named without blame or shame.
I'd like to add that capability also does not equal capacity. I have pushed myself in so many ways all I my life because I am technically capable of doing things... I do not, however, have the capacity to do all of the things that I an capable of combined...I never have. People, myself included, see me as capable, and I am but my capacity has always been extremely low.
Thank you for sharing your experience and adding this distinction @Heather Bladey, it id an important one. 💛
I love that you also are viewing things through the lens of capacity. The lens of capacity is something that I use a lot to explain dynamic Disability and families as an ecosystem.
I feel called to write more about it too. 🌟🫶🏼✨
Thank you @Brilliantly-BeNDy, I’m glad this resonated and I look forward to reading your writing. 💛
Thank you for writing this with such clarity and care. The way you've separated capacity from character is both freeing and validating, especially for those of us who have spent a lifetime equating performance with worth. Your description of "psychic plaque" building up over years of overriding signals makes so much sense, it’s a relief to see this complexity named without blame or shame.